I would love for my wife to start flying heli's...ideas?

[blue_collar2]

I've been flying a long time, and she has put up with it all. My eldest daughter (8y) has voiced an interest, so she is working on a sim, and I built her a heli...I just can't get my wife interested in the hobby.

Any suggestions?

[Whirly-Girl]

Are there any other wives that atleast go out and support by watching their hubbies? At my field, we love getting together and grilling dinner out at the field so the whole family is comfy.

Support your daughter!! Maybe mom will follow after she sees the success that your little girl has!

Do you return support on one of the wife's hobbies? :wink:

[nazrac22]

You know, Blue Collar, I have the same problem with my wife. She does like to watch me fly sometimes, but sometimes I can't contain mayself, kirk out and go technical on her. BUT, she does like the USCG, so I make it a point to show her USCG models on Real Flight and the body for my CX resembles that of a USCG chopper. She stated that she'd like to learn...Sometimes, the road to glorious infection is long and sneaky...

[ThePig0079]

You can always go to her like my wife told me.. Tell her it is a way for you two to spend some quality time together. That is what she told me when she said she wanted one.

Not to mention if she doesn't like it after all and decides to quit you have two helis.... Problem is she wants it in pink and such, People might question my sexuality if I showed up to a fun fly with a pink bird. :mrgreen: :WOW

[Trooper Sam]

Tell her a hobby like flying RC reduces stress. Then tell her that reduced stress slows and reduces aging and wrinkling of the skin.

After that, it should be simple. :D

[lampard]

tell your wive this: "for man, rc is like a jewelery"

[Kyna]

blue collar,

I think most husbands would say your pretty lucky that she is ok with your hobby. I wouldn't try and push her into it if she lets you do your thing. You're not going to be able to make her like it...I'm sure she has hobbies or intrests that you could care less about. So, your time at the field is her time to explore the things that interest her. Plus, if you start taking your daughter out with you it gives her the much needed break that every mom deserves!

My advice....be happy with what you have and be careful for what you ask for!

[JasonJ]

I fish extensively, have built two boats, spend a ton of time (and money) on the water fishing for anything with gills. I have tried to get my wife to develop an interest, but the only thing she likes the boat for is our weekend swim outings.

She does have an interest in flying the helis, so I will try to assist her with that.

It is unlikely you will ever get your wife to fly. You might just have to be thankful she puts up with the hobby at all. There are a lot of wives out there that would simply not tolerate anything that involve money being spent on "frivelous" things like hobbies. In my line of work I see many, many households, and I see many, many emasculated men that seem to serve little more purpose than to bring home the paycheck and the wife makes all the decisions. Those of us who are blessed with mature reasonable women who support our hobbies (while we support theirs) are truely lucky. I have also found that if I spend a bit of cash on the wife, it sure made buying all those boat parts way easier... :)

[kygirl]

Well, you really can't make someone take interest in a hobby. I had NEVER seen anyone fly an rc-heli until a few months ago when my boyfriend enocouraged me to come out to the field with him. At first, I was a little annoyed because he worked on them so much and talked about them all the time. But, I kept going with him because I'd rather him be doing this than running around with other women or bar-hopping...After watching him fly I became interested and bought a heli...I love it! I've only missed going with him twice this year! She'll come around in her own time and if she doesn't, at least you have 'guy time'. Good luck!

[Rick Rotorhead]

My wife doesn't fly. If however i wanted to encourage her to take up the hobby I'd incorporate all the things that she does like to ease her into it.

So, (ready for this), I'd build her a handbag with a rotor assembly coming out the top and
5" stilettos for skids with long earings hanging down each side of the canopy and an under slung antique coffee pot.

I'm not saying it would fly nicely, but at least it would have her attention :)

[Epoweredrc]

I am not married but should be, been together 4 yrs and shes always went to the feild with me and watched me, just got her a slow stick and now she is learning, we got into rc trucks together and had fun with that for a while.i enjoy flight more so shes learning now... maybe she will after the daughter or maybe she just not interested none of my other gfs ever was.

[alfredbmor]

Very interesting thread, I do love to fly my RC stuff but my wife likes to go shopping on sundays, I just can't feel happy going to the Malls as she does. She has been at our flying field for no more than 5 times in 11 years of our marriage. I do really want to share my time with her and kids I have spend many sundays at the mall for her but I just can not make her to care my hobby. I think that one reason is that there are no more than 3 other ladies that like to go to the field with their husbands and that is it.

[Carbon Copter]

Are you kidding me? I go to the filed...TO GET AWAY FROM THE WIFE...why the H*ll would I want to bring her...lol.. Just kidding. I'm lucky my wife tolerates having the Heli in the house.:lol:

[seanh]

Are there any other ladies at the field? If not you'll have a very hard time getting her to go. If there is, see if you can get her to go when the ladies are flying.


Is there something that she likes to do such as shop, go to the Opra etc? See if you both can try someting new for a while. If she sees that you're trying to do something she likes maybe she'll give it a try.

Get your daughter to use guilt to get her to the field, (Guilt and a little CX2 may go a long way)

[Gmoney]

My wife loves the helo's. they are smaller than the 40% planes and take up less space. She HATES the hobby which is fine by me.. I need some space after going seven days a week.. Nothing like hooking up the trailer and being gone all weekend hanging with the boys talking smack and flying till all hours of the night... If she was around i would have to stop for coffee, then take her to lunch then find her something to read then we would have to load up early for another more important 3 yr olds B-day party.. NO she can continue to HATE the hobby.. "it's mine damnit"

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[jrohland]

Spread jewelry around the field. Tell her she can only have it if she hooks it with the heli skids.

Seriously, she has her hobby (making jewelry and art glass (http://www.2sistersartjewelry.com/)). I have mine. It works for us.

jrohland

[seanh]

Carbon Copter
Right now the wife and I have a different opinion of the hobby much like you. My wife was upset on the amout of RC heli's, plankes etc that I have indicating that I have more in rc stuff than she has in jewlery. So we made an agreement, she has to have the same dollar value in jewlery as I do in RC stuff.

The down side, she wants a tennis bracelet. The upside, if I get the braclet I'll have the go ahead on getting other heli's. I'm in the hole a bit but that's ok.

So the cost of my hobby just doubled but I get no flack from the wife....as long as the jewlery keeps coming.

What is it that Ron White said..."Diamonds....that'll shut her up" LOL.


My next move is getting the kids involved...Guilt is a wonderful tool. Sorry ladies, I've learned from you.

[[X]Outlaw]

I've only gotten into the hobby a couple months now...started with a Blade CPP and im now building my 450 SE V2...my wife doesn't even want to hear about it. From the minute i start talking about it she just ignores me and says I'm ridiculous for being so excited about a "fricking toy". No to mention when new stuff comes...man i have to just put it away and pretend like its not important..to tell you the truth..I'm getting frustrated. I mean its the one thing i do that i really enjoy and i would like to be able to get her interested in it...but right now ill just settle for her being a bit more tolerant.

[seanh]

[X]Outlaw

the problem sounds like communication. What is the problem she really has? The fact that you like to mess around with toys can't be the problem. That is just not a proper adult response. If she knows how much you enjoy the hobby she should be thrilled that it keeps you occupied AT HOME.

Does she have a hobby? Something other than shopping that she can do on her own? Or, is there something that the two of you can do together.

PM me and I'll get into the detail on how my wife got of the "Toy" issue. it was so simple. here's a hint how do you define "Her Time"

[Nipster]

I dunno quite what happened, my partner never expressed an interest in my helis. Having said that she is extremely competitive.
I was chucking a Belt CP about the garden which she was videoing for me and I happened to comment, I'd put the training gear on if she wanted to try.
Quick visit to Radds so she could step by step it and now well, the Belt CP has gone the journey along with a HBK2, she has her own T-Rex 450XL which she built herself and keeps pestering me for a flight on my 600E. All this in 2 months and she's far more competent than I was at that stage.

I think she'll settle for a 500. Be careful what you wish for it may cost you more than you thought.

On the plus side I've gained a weather forecaster and battery logger !

If you want your wife / partner to fly, don't force the issue, she'll do it when she's ready apparently.

[heligirl13]

I've been flying a long time, and she has put up with it all. My eldest daughter (8y) has voiced an interest, so she is working on a sim, and I built her a heli...I just can't get my wife interested in the hobby.

Any suggestions?


I started going to the field with my boyfriend early on and just seemed to find it interesting and really liked the time I spent with my guy watching him do what he enjoys so much. I heard so much about the guys and flying at the field that I couldn't wait to see what it was all about.

Once you see what goes on at the field, you are real thankful that this is what he likes to do for fun. I figure there is much worse things that he could be doing.

If your field is like ours, people bring their spouses, children, and friends and just hang out and relax. I don't fly, but have a blast hanging out and laughing with the guys. They throw some food on the grill and everyone is happy.

Maybe your wife just doesn't have an interest in the hobby and that's fine if that's the case. Maybe she feels left out or like this hobby is taking away from things you could be doing together. I'm not saying that's the case, Iam just thinking about how I might feel if I were in the situation with a hobby I wasn't interested in.Since you have been flying for years and she hasn't showed much interest, I wouldn't force her.

Maybe now that your daughter is showing an interest, you could use this time to ask her to go to the field with the two of you. You might even suggest the three of you grab a bite to eat afterwards so she doesn't have to cook when she gets home. She would probably like that idea, or tell her you will take her somewhere she wants to go afterwards or even the next weekend. It's worth a shot!

[Thrashaero]

At first, I was a little annoyed because he worked on them so much and talked about them all the time. But, I kept going with him because I'd rather him be doing this than running around with other women or bar-hopping...After watching him fly I became interested and bought a heli...I love it! I've only missed going with him twice this year! She'll come around in her own time and if she doesn't, at least you have 'guy time'. Good luck!

Damn he's lucky. Funny you mentioned that you got a little annoyed, as I did the same to my girlfriend of the time when I got my raptor (first heli).
I was an idiot, actually working on it when we were hanging out together...One night she asked me what I was doing when I got the tools out for the heli and I said "gonna work on the chopper" and she's like "why dont you work on me?" and pulls me away from it. Just a funny yet sort of embarrassing memory I have.